And I can't go to sleep. I have a very unusual phobia; I can't stand lizards or anything that looks like it. Around 10.00 p.m, my 4 yr old told me he saw a gecko on the staircase as he was coming upstairs to my bedroom. I quickly told him and his siblings to pass the message across to their dad who was on his PC in the study room downstairs. So they were there for some minutes screaming "Abi!!!!!!!!!!, there is a gecko on the staircase, but there was no response, even though we knew he could hear them very well. They could not go downstairs to tell him and ask why he is not responding because that would scare the gecko away and we would not know which part of the house it went. So after some minutes, they became tired and disappointed and came to tell me their dad has refused to come and kill the pest. I had to tell them to leave it there (if its still there) and go to bed. I for one do not have the courage to kill it, I don't even want to see it dead or alive. In fact, I can't get myself to pack it after its been killed so I have had to beg him to pack it himself whenever he kills one in the house. This is a problem I usually deal with during the summer, when the creepy creatures try to get into the house because of the excessive heat outside. I have sealed all the spaces under the doors that leads outside the house but they still find a way to get in, somehow. Anyways, as I was saying, the man of the house refused to do the job of an exterminator this evening, so I still have the thing wandering around my house and I don't know what to do.
Well, when he came to sleep a little after midnight, I was still up reading something on my laptop. I waited for some minutes to be calm before saying anything. Then I "cleared my throat" and said, dh, we need to talk. He told me to go ahead. I said "I was told by a neighbour that she has a man who comes to help clean her house every other day, so i was thinking of asking him if its okay for the man to come help me clean like once a week so that he can move all the furniture around and see if there is anything hiding under it to kill. The man takes 200 sr and I can just play with the children outside the house while he works" Of course, I was not expecting a yes, I have never had anyone coming to help me with housework since we got married and I had always said I could handle it myself. (I'd write a separate post about the experience some saudis have had with live-in maids). There was along silence that lasted long enough for me to ask if he heard what I said. Then he said yes, he heard and that he would think of something to do about it and that I should not ask my neighbour to tell the man I would need his services. and I asked, what are you going to do about it? His response was, "never mind, I would think of some other alternative since you said you cannot clean the house again". Where and when did I say that I cannot clean the house again??????????
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I've seen this sort of behaviour with my ex....
ReplyDeleteSo basically, you have brought up something and expect him to say something like...."I was too busy to kill the gecko.....or is this because I wouldn't kill the gecko?" Either of those would be an appropriate response. But instead of giving you the satisfaction, he has turned this around on you.
Isn't that the way it always is? It was for me. So now you don't want to clean the house again...sigh.
Well....keep your hat on. I'd make sure to remark, that you clean the house a lot more often than once a week. And secondly, I'd clearly bring up the fact that the new cleaning man is really just to ensure that you have no hiding bugs or geckos because of your fear of them. You plan on continuing to clean the house even with the help......
Communicate, Mena. Tell him exactly WHY you want the cleaning guy. And don't fool yourself.....he KNOWS why you want him...... But this couldn't be about him.....oh no!
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