Bitter sweet

I wrote about my christian friend few days ago. I have some good news; she was blessed with a healthy baby boy. I am very happy for her, but at the same time, I couldn't help feeling deeply sorry about the whole situation. When she had her third baby 2 years ago, her hubby had to take a week off work so he could travel home to see her and welcome his new baby into the world. Now, she had another baby without him, in her mother's house. I know she is happy and relieved that she at least had a safe delivery, but every thing around her is sure to remind her about her husband. The fact that barely a month ago, he was still with her and now she is all by herself with 4 little kids is such a huge test that I pray she would be able to pass. I also pray Allah protects us from being tested with same.

Really, her situation is a reminder to me and the other sisters around here about the worthlessness of the life of this world. We sometimes sit and chat about polygyny and the possibilities of our husbands marrying other wives, and of course we all hope and pray it never happens to us. I mean in our very narrow minds, it was like the ultimate test of faith. Some of us are so scared of being in polygyny that the moment it is mentioned, our heart beat faster and we get all worked up. But when my friend's husband died when she least expected it, and it even happened right in her before, and her entire life, hopes and dreams were dashed within minutes, I started to have a rethink. Though she was not a muslim so she never factored the possibility of polygyny in her marriage, I believe if she could chose between being in polygyny and suddenly becoming a widow, she would prefer the latter situation.

I have never being in a poly marriage but have heard and read from sisters who have been, that it is indeed the most difficult thing to deal with. A close friend told me it was the worst type pf pain ever. I pray Allah does not test me with the loss of my husband because I'm sure as much as I don't wish to be in a poly marriage, I believe the pain and misery a first wife would experience when her husband remarries would be a peice of cake when compared to what my christian friend, Christiana has been through in the last 30 days.

I pray Allah comfort her and guide her to Islam.